Transwomen are Men

Lily Maynard

The media circus is full of high-profile men claiming to be women. Most of them didn’t ‘transition’ until mid-adulthood and there’s a very good reason for this. Parents twenty years ago realised that childhood, the teenage years – and even the early twenties – are times of tumultuous change for growing humans.

Screen Shot 2018-03-20 at 17.45.20.pngPuberty was unpleasant for most of us; hellish for some of us, but often these men have an idealised fantasy version of the elusive girlhood they feel they were denied: a Victorious style time of pillow fights, bubblegum and girlish confidences.

‘The Gender Speaker’ a late-transitioning man who works in Transgender Awareness Training, has this to say:

  “I had missed out on the teenage years, getting all dressed up for a night out, wearing strappy tops and mini skirts.” He seems to imagine that being a teenage girl is just one long femininity-performing trip to the disco. The reality? A friend of middle-child told me three days ago that she’d started wearing a big fluffy fleece jacket belonging to her father because, “I’m sick of men staring at my tits”.  She is twelve years old.

In addition to convincing themselves that all the problems they’ve faced in life could have been avoided if only they had been born female, these men also like to consider themselves experts on both ‘sides of the fence’, hence Arundel’s blogpostHow Women can be More Successful in a Male World’;  Munroe Bergdorf’s:  “Women are getting feminism wrong”  and Juno Dawson’s tagline for his 2017 bookThe Gender Games’ – The problem with men and women… from someone who has been both.”

Think about it carefully for a moment. Is it really likely that there is no history of child transition- back in the ancient literary archives of the last century and beyond- because young people ‘didn’t have the words’? Were men all inarticulate idiots back in the days of Chaucer, Milton, Shakespeare, Dickens, Whitman and Tolkein? Were Sappho, Benn, Shelley, Brontë, Dickinson and Woolf unable to ‘find the words’ they needed to articulate their experiences? There is a rich and profound history of writing by same-sex attracted people throughout history, but the culture of transgenderism is new and is perpetuated almost entirely by men.

Despite decades of male privilege these men suddenly demand to be addressed as and viewed as women, while in the next breath claiming, ‘I’m still the same person inside’ or ‘I was always a woman”.  However they protest to the contrary, it seems that their view of womanhood is a vague, elusive feeling that manifests itself through red lipstick, gently waved hair and tits.  This is such bullshit that it is hardly a surprise that many women are offended by the claim. Woman is not a costume, it is a biological fact and to say so is not ‘defining women by their vaginas’. Woman is not something you can ‘identify’ in and out of, it is a physical state of being.

When did it become an act of hatred to state the obvious?

Let’s be really clear here, I don’t care what these men choose to wear, how they style their hair and who they do or don’t fuck. They should be safe in public spaces; they should have the same rights to housing, jobs and earned respect as anyone else. They should feel safe. Nobody deserves to be threatened, hit, or assaulted for the clothing they wear or their sexual preferences. I’m all for diversity and breaking the bonds of social convention. Men can wear make up, of course they can! Bloody good for them! It just doesn’t make them women. This current trend isn’t about ‘gender bending’, and it certainly isn’t about challenging the boundaries of gender or breaking down stereotypes.

I’ll say it again and again and again; for no matter how often I say it I’m accused of speaking with hatred – I do not hate men for thinking they can become women. I am angered by their audacity and yes, part of me pities their confusion but this is not about hating men, it is about hating a harmful ideology.  I hate the idea that women are expected to accept that ‘woman’ is some sort of inner girly feeling that can be appropriated by a man who believes that growing his hair, wearing a blouse, taking hormones and- sometimes- undergoing surgery, means that he somehow understands a collective experience of womanhood and has the right to speak on behalf of women.  It does not. No man has that right and no man who cares about women would try to claim that right.

It’s intensely conservative and individualistic. Woman as a concept rather than the messy reality of life. Self transformation rather than tackling narrow confines of sexist stereotyping of both sexes’.    

                                                                                     Dr Mary Chadwick

So now we’re going to look at a few high-profile men who claim to be women. I’m not going to say anything ‘hateful’ about them, because- let me say it one more time- I don’t actually hate them or wish them harm. I’m just going to state a few facts.  I’m taking a deep breath here and reminding you that the Junos and Indias and Shons of this world are not women. They are men. They were raised as men and they grew up as (gay) men. All three of them worked in media before transition and are no strangers to male privilege.

DAWSON

Screen Shot 2018-03-13 at 10.56.58In 2013 James Dawson published ‘Being a Boy‘.  The Amazon blurb claims: ‘former PSHCE teacher James Dawson expertly guides boys through puberty’.  In 2013, Dawson was a bit of a gay role model.  Of his novel ‘Cruel Summer’ he saidWhy wouldn’t straight people want to read about a devious, sexy young chap?” In 2014 he published ‘This Book is Gay‘ and became a School Role Model for the charity Stonewall. In 2015 he announced he was going to transition, telling the Independent ‘I just want to be one of the girls’. By 2017 he had reinvented himself as Juno and was claiming”A lot of gay men are gay men as a consolation prize, because they couldn’t be women.’

Dawson’s ability for doublethink is apparent in that he can see no irony in saying of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, “I can’t imagine that she’s dying to hear my views on growing up as a black person because it’s something I have no experience of.”

WILLOUGBY

Screen Shot 2018-03-13 at 10.58.25Jonathan Willoughby was in his mid-40s- divorced and the father of a teenage boy- when he disappeared from the world of broadcasting and returned several years later as India.

Infamously, he tried to force a kiss on singer/songwriter Ginuwine in a 2018 episode of Celebrity Big Brother and accused Ginuwine of transphobia when he wouldn’t kiss him back. When women in the ‘Big Brother’ house angered him, he declared loudly- in an unfortunate choice of words-  “I am a woman! Let that penetrate!” His goalpost for womanhood seems to be undergoing surgery, telling Pink News in 2017,  “Unless you are transitioning, stay out of the ladies. Pulling on a frock as and when the mood takes doesn’t cut it. You don’t have a God-given right to go into female-only spaces.” The irony of this seems to be lost on Willoughby, who appears to make the rules up as he goes along, while being photographed in the Ladies’ toilets.

FAYE

Screen Shot 2018-03-13 at 10.59.32In 2014, aged 26, Sean Faye was writing articles for the Guardian about being a man who wore make up.  In 2015 he claimed ‘I’m not a man, I never was’. A year later he wrote an article for the BBC on International Women’s Day in which he saw no irony in speaking of a world in where ‘femininity is still in flight from male definition, ridicule and violence’.

“Trans women live under the same system of patriarchy as other women,writes Shon in the Guardian: in an article where he demands access to women’s  refuges and domestic violence centres ‘because I now exist as a woman’. Faye seems to genuinely believe that woman is a costume. He once told a woman on Twitter, ‘I’m a woman because I say I am, you’ve lost… enjoy your erasure”.

You may have conveniently forgotten about your 27 years of male privilege, but Shon baby, it still shows.

This list could go on. And on, and on. Don’t get me started on Riley J ‘I could start a fire with all that straw,‘ Dennis and even Lily ‘TERF TERF TERF‘ Madigan. The fact that some of these men are too young and disturbed for me to feel comfortable writing about them in depth doesn’t lessen the harm they are doing to women with their entitled appropriation.

These men are representing women. The last decade has seen an explosion in men who claim to be women and the internet is bursting with men who believe that it is quite reasonable to demand that they are referred to as women and that women who disagree with them should STFU. This is not progressive; it is nothing new. This is what men have always done to women. Shut up, TERF.

So, if I might disagree with Bergadof for a moment when he claims that,“What makes a woman ‘a woman’ has no definitive answer, nor does it need one”, I think we really do need to ask a few questions.

So what IS a woman?  How do we define ‘woman’?

Screen Shot 2018-03-20 at 11.22.49.pngIs it that she grows young inside her (but some women never have kids!) and feeds them with her breasts (but some women can’t lactate!)?

Is it her womb (but some women have had a hysterectomy!) or her breasts (but some women have lost breasts to cancer!) or her chromosomes (but some women are intersex!) or her menses (but some women never menstruate!)?

Is it her penis? No. Stop right there. Let’s get this perfectly clear. Women do not have penises. None of them.  Ever. We have a word for people who were born with penises. That word is men.

But these days it’s really complicated to define ‘woman’.

But wait, no it isn’t actually. It isn’t at all. We all know what a woman is. A woman is an adult human female. We all came out of one. And no, that’s not to say that women who are sterile, or have had a mastectomy, or a hysterectomy are not women: of course it isn’t. NOBODY HAS EVER SAID THAT.

Pay attention class. Are you ready for a blackboard meme? Good. Magdalen Behrns introduced me to this wonderful, spectacularly succinct phrase. The fact that this phrase is fast becoming controversial sums up the absurdity of the current state of gender politics.

Lily Maynard

There is no such thing as a woman with a penis, whether she is a lesbian or not, (I discuss intersex in my articleWhat makes somebody ‘real’ trans part 2′, so I won’t digress here) but this argument is especially trying for lesbians because obviously, quote Jessie: “Euw… penises.”

So, why should we say men are women when they tell us they are?  Well, basically it seems to come down to being ‘nice’.   It’s kinder not to remind them that they aren’t really women. We know they’re confused, bless them, so most of us go along with it – because it’s ‘mean’ not to and we have been trained to put the needs of men and boys before our own since we were little girls.

And there’s one more thing we need to get clear. Right now. This is not harmless. This is not just ‘being nice’ to a few confused and vulnerable individuals, it’s far, far bigger than that. This is about your rights. And if you’re a bloke reading this, this is about your mother’s rights, your sisters’, your friends’, your daughters’… this is about Women’s Rights. Yes. THIS IS A WOMEN’S RIGHTS ISSUE! Why? Because this:

Lily Maynard

We women are trained from a very early age that it isn’t nice to be ‘mean’, but this feels like war. War on our spaces; war on our rights; war on our bodies. And if it’s war, so be it. I come from a long line of women who believe that women’s rights are worth fighting for. Bring it on.

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About Lily Maynard

Shamelessly gender critical. There's no such thing as a pink brain, a lesbian with a penis or a gender fairy. Transitioning kids is child abuse.
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27 Responses to Transwomen are Men

  1. thom prentice says:

    Excellent. Reposted to FB and twitter. Thanks for the spotlight on several who are perpetrating and perpetuating this fraud.

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  2. lorac says:

    No lesbian has a penis, and no straight woman has a penis. They push the former to break the “cotton ceiling” and the latter to push the “female penis”, a “man is a woman” meme.

    The public needs to learn that most of these men have NO intention of losing their penises, and that TIMs’ level of violence is no different from that of regular men. Women need their safe spaces preserved, and TIMs just need to solve their problem w/o taking from women. They need to fight for their own sports, their own bathrooms, for the category of “men” to be more inclusive. But they won’t, because their identities are so fragile they want “validation” from being in women’s spaces and trying to sleep with lesbians. Plus, I really think they then automatically consider themselves as superior to us because of that male entitlement. They felt they couldn’t compete in some way with men, so they figure they’ll “become” women and be winners by taking our jobs, scholarships, sports records, “woman of the year” honors, and “be on top”. Oh, and get to tell us how to be “better women”. Pffft.

    And the autogynephilia. The public really needs to learn about this. NO ONE has the right to take away our long fought for rights to help guys with their sexual fetish.

    And the transing of children. Oh, don’t get me started.

    Sorry for the rant. I just can’t believe we’re here. I can’t believe we have to prove that 2+2 does not equal 5.

    I really think the answer is education. The public doesn’t know. They need to know all this stuff, they need to know that women, lesbians, and childhoods are being erased – all to make a minority of failed men feel good, help them in their delusions and entitlement.

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  3. Alina says:

    This was an interesting read.

    However i would be interested to know if you believe all Transwomen to follow the stereotype you seem to have of Transwomen?

    As a Transwomen myself im pretty critical of many of the vocal and more known “Transwomen” i dont even like using the term on them, they havent even put in any effort to be a “Transwomen”

    However there are very quiet and not well known Transwomen who do not follow the sterotypes of these frilly men, we dont even want to be “women” to us “Transwomen” is just a term to describe ourselves in todays gender-centric society, we would love if we can just “be” you know? But unfortunately people put labels on us and it sticks, but people like me wouldnt claim to be a woman or to know what its like to be one, or even be a part of “womanhood” to us “Transwomanhood” is enough,

    just like how Womanhood is used to describe the experiences of natal woman, its important that a difference be drawn between men and transwoman as we too have differing experience, hence “Transwomanhood”

    I Don’t Know, i would just be interested to know if you truely believe all Transwoman are privlidged assholes like Lily Madagard for example

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    • JuniperJello says:

      Alina, I can’t speak for the author, but I can tell you that, yes, most radfems know that there are a lot of transwomen who just want to live their lives, and who understand that they are not females. We know that they aren’t the problem. And there are some transwomen, like Miranda Yardley and Jenn Smith, who get a LOT of bs for siding with gender critical feminists.

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    • AngryTardis says:

      #notalltrans strikes again.

      Rather than expecting Lily, or indeed any woman, to defend their experiences of trans identified males; perhaps you yourselves could start calling these privileged nellies out. It’d be nice to see some accountability for bullshit being demanded by the other sex.

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      • Alina says:

        Check m my twitter @Alina_Starkova_

        I 100% support womens rights and have been branded a TERF by Lily Madigan. Put on two blocklists etc…. not all of us believe in the tra cult

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    • slljarvis says:

      Lily will speak for herself I expect, but just to let you know that I for one (gender critical adult human female) don’t think all transwomen are like the high profile activists. I completely agree with you being able to be yourself in safety and contentment, and to be respected as all people should be. Doesn’t sound as if you’re trying to take women’s places or spaces which is what is getting us angry and scared.

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    • Jeff White says:

      The critique is against transgenderism and all who promote that misogynist ideology. Not all transwomen do so; in fact, the vast majority of people who subscribe to the ideology aren’t even “trans”. I’m pleased to know that you are not among them.

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    • Lily Maynard says:

      I don’t believe that all trans-identified men are ‘privileged assholes’, but I also don’t believe that a man can ever ‘become’ a woman & to suggest that is possible is both sexist and regressive. A man can never know how a woman feels because there is no one specific experience of womanhood. What makes a female a female is her biology.

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      • Alina says:

        Agreed, us Transwoman need to be content with being Transwomen, im quite proud of my identity, i dont need TRAs declaring me invalid just because im aware im male and not a woman

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  4. Leigh says:

    Excellent article. Thank you Lily. Transwomen are men, it’s as simple as that.

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  5. Hmmm says:

    “they should have the same rights to housing, jobs and earned respect as anyone else”

    Why should I have to hire a delusional femulator, let alone respect him?

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  6. C Dunkley says:

    Love this article, you write eloquently and succinctly on a difficult subject. I’m going to save it and share with members of my family.

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  7. Excellent summary of the whole issue. Thank you for your work

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  8. Great piece thank you

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  9. Charlie says:

    Hi Alina, I’m not Lily but as I agree with her views I’ll try and give you my answer to your question. I used to believe that all transwomen where like the people you describe yourself as – a person who dealt with their gender dysphoria in the best and healthiest way they knew how: by honestly (and usually quietly) living according to their personal vision of (trans)womanhood, whether that included medically transitioning all the way to bottom surgery or not. Being true to what felt right to them.

    Where appropriate I consented to share spaces with such persons on the basis of mutual respect and consideration. We acknowledged and accepted that we each also needed our own spaces as our experiences of life differed (including of course also those experiences that differed because of our different biology). I wouldn’t have presumed to tell you about your struggle and you wouldn’t have presumed to tell me about mine because neither could ever live the other’s struggle. But I easily accepted that there were distressing times for you because of your gender dysphoria and that this was a real thing with real consequences in your life, both before and after coming out. And those like you accepted that women as a class – worldwide and here at home – and I as an individual female needed to be able to center our biology in our struggle for equality and rights as our sex is the basis of our oppression.

    Then I came across those who appropriate womanhood, riding roughshod over both your experiences as a transsexual and my experiences as a woman. Who seek to redefine me and tell me I embraced my oppression because I am a woman. Who denigrate your struggles and experiences and seem to have little other than contempt for transsexuals.

    And what is incredibly hard and getting increasingly harder is to hold onto to the thought, no – the knowledge, that the transwomen I knew still exist and that they are who I have always wanted to protect from discrimination and who I have always supported in their struggles.

    Which is why this is a clarion call to you: we need you to come to our aid. Help protect us, support us and please speak up. The backlash if you and me don’t do this will hurt us both – and all those like us, whether they are aware of what’s going on or even want to know about it or not. We will all be affected.

    Women and girls will lose some of the rights and protections our grandmothers and greatgrandmothers fought so hard for and you may well be affected badly if the aim of demedicalising succeeds and if this debate further strengthens those on the extreme conservative end of society.

    You will still need our support and protection as we now need yours, but will those women give it who have never known transwomen like you if you stay invisible? I doubt it.

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    • Alina says:

      If you check my twitter @Alina_Starkova_ you will see not only my anti TRA tweets, but ive retweeted many threads by other anti tra transsexuals, you can have a look to see that we still very much support you, we just get quieted a lot,

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      • Susan Siens says:

        I always refer to humans who seriously see themselves as the other sex as transsexuals rather than transgender. They may have surgeries or they may not, but they pass and, for one example, women would never know they are not sharing the toilet facilities with another woman. The first transsexual I ever met was very quiet and retiring, nothing like these loudmouthed creeps who apparently never learned basic hygiene.

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  10. Theo says:

    Transwomen are men. I say this as a man and I know that women and men differ. And which is which.
    And as the son of a mother I know what women are.
    And as the partner of a woman I know what women are.
    And as a father of a daughter I know what women are.
    And as a brother of a sister I know what women are.
    And needless to say, as the son-in-law of a mother-in-law I know what women are – so can make ‘mother-in-law jokes’, should I so wish, while no-one, man or woman, ever makes father-in-law jokes. 😦

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  11. Pauline Dussault says:

    Thank you!!

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  12. zoermt says:

    Great article Lily – thank you!!

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  13. Jake says:

    Sadly it’s always been a problem to speak one’s mind, if you don’t say the right words for the powers that be at the time. For a long time when Men complained about parts of Feminism we were told to shut up and “stay in our lane” but now that some Men are playing at being a woman and taking away resources and female only spaces, suddenly many of these feminists that wanted men to shut up in the past suddenly want us allies. I am of course generalizing unlike Intersectionalists I don’t subscribe to identity politics. Sad to see it going this way but many of us warned you this was going to happen, and now the T’s have totally hi jacked the LGB and Women’s identities.. it’s going to be a hard fight to roll back all the nonsense that is being enshrined in law…

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  14. lorac says:

    Tell Jess that I want to marry her mother, I so love her writing!!! 🙂

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  15. While you, Lily Maynard, are entitled to your opinion, as biased, toxic, super-ignorant and STUPID as it is, what I don’t agree with is getting the STUPID TITLE of this ignorant article as a search result, on the top-10 results for a Google search with the word transgender in it.

    A PERSON CAN BE BORN WITH A 80%+ FEMALE BRAIN AND 80%+ or even 100% MALE GENITALS, did you IGNORANT EVEN KNOW THAT AT ALL? That is biology, that is SCIENCE.

    Also you MTF HATER, “forgot “that there are TONS OF FTMS in the whole world, do you even know what that is? That’s the opposite side of an MTF: a Female to Male transgender person. A person born with female genitals and 80% or more of a male brain. SCIENTIFIC FACT AS WELL.

    So of course if a person is born with a PHYSICAL DEFECT and they HAVE TO PRETEND TO LIVE THE LIFE of a gender they don’t belong to because 1) Family and society forces them to and 2) at puberty they start PHYSICALLY producing the wrong hormones, thus confusing their brains to an insane degree. A woman, a MTF, producing testosterone. A man, an MTF, producing estrogen. Then their lives become a total mess, so much so that they mate hate themselves and never transition, or start really late in life, adter living a miserable life in a wrong role.

    You know NOTHING AT ALL about gender dysphoria. You use some stupid high-profile celebrities with a loud mouth –again, “strangely” just MTFs, no FTMs at all you biased psychotic, where the heck is Chaz Bono and the likes of him in your poor full of hate article??? — to “justify” your ridiculous claim.

    The irony here is that there are MILLIONS of MTFs, —which you happen to hate so much—, that LOOK PHYSICALLY, AND ARE MENTALLY WAY, WAAAAAY MORE FEMALE AND FEMININE THAN YOU ARE, WAS AND WILL EVER BE, and if you come across them in a women’s bathroom, dressing or locker room, even the public showers, you and your peanut-sized brain will NEVER EVER become aware that you were actually dealing with an MTF and not a cis woman which you think are the only people entitled to “be a woman for real.”. Those women, that are actually MTF transwomen but nobody ever realizes that, are the STEALTH ones, and FYI they are the majority of MTFs and FTMs, who don’t give a crap about activism, in fact they HATE their condition and they only want to be what they are: a woman or a man in their real daily life. One that was born with a physical defect (wrong genitals) and had to, most possibly, go through hell for many many years to change him or herself physically, socially and legally into what they really ARE. And I repeat it, they are STEALTH, thus a simpleton super-ignorant, misinformed, close minded, peanut brain sized full of hate of the unknown person like you would never ever realize that. IGNORANT.

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